You glow different when you’re happy and healthy but that doesn’t mean your partner was the sole problem in your unhealthy relationship. A relationship is made or broken by two people, I don’t agree just because you glow after breakup you weren’t a problem. Maybe no actually probably you weren’t the main problem but both sides make mistakes, I for sure did and am taking full responsibility for my problematic contributions.
I was in an unhealthy relationship that I made the choice it no longer suited the person I wanted to become or could ever support me in my future goals and wants. I did not deserve the way I was treated nor the names I was called even though I was not perfect and I was needy/ overbearing. I am able to grow and have less restrictions based on someone else’s perception of who I should be as a human now, though. I am so grateful for the bad treatment and negative actions taken towards me because it was the fuel that started the fire inside me of wanting to heal myself and fix my issues. I wanted to become a better person and be a kind light in the world. I would like to say I have been making positive and meaningful progress in that life goal. Thank you for showing me I needed to create boundaries and what to never accept from another human. I have glowed up and am never going back to that place you put me in.